| Location | South Shields |
| Age | 22 years |
| Cause of Death | Suicide |
| Date of Birth | 27/06/1985 |
| Date of Death | 26/12/2007 |
| Visitors | 10,181 since 28/12/2007 |
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stephen 'dappa' heslop
suddenly taken from us on boxing day 2007 in tragic circumstances, always in our hearts never ever
will you be forgotten
Dappa, you were a good one, always brought a smile to our faces had so much love for your friends
and family... not a bad bone in your body mate!!! i will never forget you, as you will always be in
my heart... my love goes out to all the Costello and Heslop family, the hill will not be the same
without you.....
the song coat of many colours has been requested by jean, stephens mum,
dappa your missed more and more each day by your mum, your brothers lee and jak, and your many
friends and family!!!
a tribute from Stephens Mum Jean
I just want to say thankyou to the many lovely people who are leaving tributes and lighting candles
for Stephen. It means a lot to all his loving family.
We are all having a hard time coming to terms with the way Stephen took his life. He was more
desperate to end the nightmare he was living through, than we knew.
His friend said he had more guts than anyone hed ever known and proved this to the end. Stephen self
harmed and had tried previously to end his life. He took an overdose on xmas eve but the hospital
discharged him at 3pm on xmas day even after Stephen told the nurse, 'if you send me home now, ill
do it again but properly' sadly they didnt listen and just over 24 hours later Stephen drove over
cliffs at the local beauty spot where many good friends have gone before him. You can not have a
mental health problem on weekends or bank holidays and especially at Christmas. Now Christmas will
never be the same for Our families because they chose not to take Stephen serious!
Stephen was born 4 years after his brother Lee and he was a beautiful child with big brown eyes and
white blonde hair. He was always happy and well behaved. He was so close to Lee as they grew up and
they would always do anything for each other. His illness didnt show until his teens but throughout
the problems he had he was a very loyal kind boy. We went on to have his second brother,Jak when he
was 14 and he loved Jak so much. He would take him out and spoil him and he would enjoy babysitting
him. Jaks told me some stories about what they got up to and i have to laugh. Like Stephen raiding
my tin with a knife to get a chinkeys for them. Id saved £2 coins for ages and thought i should
have had more when i emptied it! As Stephen got older and grew into a man the problems got worse and
we had some right fights but we got over them and we were just at the point of a breakthrough as he
had been diagnosed so all his family were looking to the future for him. The night before he died he
told his aunty he just wanted to be normal and have a girlfriend and a baby like Lee. Lee has a
little girl, Madison whos nearly 2 and Stephen adored her and i know he would have been a fantastic
Daddy. He also loved all his family and would always be the first one to help when he was needed.
My only hope now is that Stephen has got the peace he so deserved. He has left lots of brilliant
memories and in time they will far outweigh the bad times. His life was short but he crammed lots
into it and he will never ever be forgotten.
In time i will share more of the fun times as he had a great knack of making people laugh. Love and
hugs to you son from mam, Lee n Jak and all your family. We miss you more than words can
sayxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
HIDDEN TREASURE
Hi Son, just want you to know that the fundraising event in your memory is going great. Ive got some fantastic prizes and they just keep coming in and all the tickets are selling.
Also Hidden Treasure is going from strength to strength and your name is up there every time! You will never ever be forgotton son.
I am finding it hard coming up to xmas again without you but i know i must keep my chin up and carry on as i know we will be back together one day! Jak is so excited for America and counting down the days. He never stops talking about it so he will be happy at xmas. He is making you a special cake on boxing day so i know where you will be! You watch over him in America and keep him safe for me as im gona miss him so so much but its better for him that he has fun at xmas! He still hurts as we all do but he has to be a kid and have fun.
Night night handsome, we love you and miss you as much as always. xxxxxxxxxxx
Hi Stephen
Today i spoke about you to 28 psycharatrists and 2 proffessors in the hope that they will learn from real people with real storys.....Was very hard but needs to be done but you know what son? I come away feeling good and know i will have the confidence to do it again. I promise you son you will not have died in vain and i will not allow you to be forgotton! These people with the big salarys for writing out prescriptions need to start getting it right NOW! We will carry on fighting for others like you and their families........Hope you had a cracking time at Wills 40th. We were all together down here celebrating with you all. Keep your chin up and chest out Dappy, we love and miss you more than ever xxxxxxxx
Hi son
just to let you know ive got Swine flu so im stuck in bed feeling very yukki, send me your strength son as i need it right now xxx
Last night at bedtime I looked out
to say goodnight to you
and out the window through the clouds
a star came shining through...
It sparkled and it twinkled
like a precious diamond stone
it looked as if it winked at me
and I felt less alone...
On earth we can see starlight
even if the star has gone
and though you are not with me
your light still does shine on...
So though I cannot kiss your face
or hug you oh so tight
I'll look to Heaven, see a star
and whisper your goodnight...
Son
Hi Stephen just dropped in to send you all our love.
Its all go here organising a fundraising night in your memory again as the 2nd year approaches without you. This time we are donating half of the proceeds to The Make-a-wish foundaton. Hopefully it will be as good or better than last years where we raised over £2000 for Hidden Treasure. Sleep peacefully my handsome angel, Mam, Lee n Jak xxxxxxxxx
Thankyou to everyone for the lovely tributes, messages and candles. Your constant support is much appreciated by all of Stephens family xxx
Light a Candle
Light a candle for those we mourn.
Into a new life they will be born.
Do not look for them at the gravesite.
They are somewhere else radiating their beautiful light.
They have gone to a new world where there is no darkness, no pain.
Their light and essence will always remain.
Light a candle for those who have left this mortal place.
They are free to travel through time and space.
When we think of them, they are near.
When we sit in a beautiful garden. Their voices we hear.
When we listen to a divine symphony,
We close our eyes, their faces we see.
Light a candle for they have not really gone.
With each flickering flame, in your hearts they will always belong.
4 MY MAM AND LOVED ONES
You cannot see or touch me
But I'm standing next to you.
Your tears will only hurt me,
Your sadness makes me blue.
Be brave and show a smiling face
Let not your grief show through.
I love you from a different place,
Yet I'm standing next to you.XXXX
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JAK!
Hi son, i think you were at the grotto and beach with me n jak the other day. He opened up to me and after 21 months he poured his little heart out to me as we sat on the rocks......He told me his last thought every night before he goes to sleep and guess what? Its exactly the same as mine! He asked me so many questions and i tried through my broken heart to answer them as best i could. We saw the white feathers falling and he knew it was you!.....He seems a lot calmer so i think he was so ready to talk about you. All he wants is to go back to when we were together as he misses you more than ever. We all think kids are resilient but thats not true as he thinks like we all do but bottles it up. Please watch over him and keep him safe for me. Things happen at school etc and he knows you are with him as he told me he talks to you!.....Deeply loved and longed for, Mam, Lee n Jak. Big snuggles off Madison xxxxxx
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