| Location | South Shields |
| Age | 22 years |
| Cause of Death | Suicide |
| Date of Birth | 27/06/1985 |
| Date of Death | 26/12/2007 |
| Visitors | 10,242 since 28/12/2007 |
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stephen 'dappa' heslop
suddenly taken from us on boxing day 2007 in tragic circumstances, always in our hearts never ever
will you be forgotten
Dappa, you were a good one, always brought a smile to our faces had so much love for your friends
and family... not a bad bone in your body mate!!! i will never forget you, as you will always be in
my heart... my love goes out to all the Costello and Heslop family, the hill will not be the same
without you.....
the song coat of many colours has been requested by jean, stephens mum,
dappa your missed more and more each day by your mum, your brothers lee and jak, and your many
friends and family!!!
a tribute from Stephens Mum Jean
I just want to say thankyou to the many lovely people who are leaving tributes and lighting candles
for Stephen. It means a lot to all his loving family.
We are all having a hard time coming to terms with the way Stephen took his life. He was more
desperate to end the nightmare he was living through, than we knew.
His friend said he had more guts than anyone hed ever known and proved this to the end. Stephen self
harmed and had tried previously to end his life. He took an overdose on xmas eve but the hospital
discharged him at 3pm on xmas day even after Stephen told the nurse, 'if you send me home now, ill
do it again but properly' sadly they didnt listen and just over 24 hours later Stephen drove over
cliffs at the local beauty spot where many good friends have gone before him. You can not have a
mental health problem on weekends or bank holidays and especially at Christmas. Now Christmas will
never be the same for Our families because they chose not to take Stephen serious!
Stephen was born 4 years after his brother Lee and he was a beautiful child with big brown eyes and
white blonde hair. He was always happy and well behaved. He was so close to Lee as they grew up and
they would always do anything for each other. His illness didnt show until his teens but throughout
the problems he had he was a very loyal kind boy. We went on to have his second brother,Jak when he
was 14 and he loved Jak so much. He would take him out and spoil him and he would enjoy babysitting
him. Jaks told me some stories about what they got up to and i have to laugh. Like Stephen raiding
my tin with a knife to get a chinkeys for them. Id saved £2 coins for ages and thought i should
have had more when i emptied it! As Stephen got older and grew into a man the problems got worse and
we had some right fights but we got over them and we were just at the point of a breakthrough as he
had been diagnosed so all his family were looking to the future for him. The night before he died he
told his aunty he just wanted to be normal and have a girlfriend and a baby like Lee. Lee has a
little girl, Madison whos nearly 2 and Stephen adored her and i know he would have been a fantastic
Daddy. He also loved all his family and would always be the first one to help when he was needed.
My only hope now is that Stephen has got the peace he so deserved. He has left lots of brilliant
memories and in time they will far outweigh the bad times. His life was short but he crammed lots
into it and he will never ever be forgotten.
In time i will share more of the fun times as he had a great knack of making people laugh. Love and
hugs to you son from mam, Lee n Jak and all your family. We miss you more than words can
sayxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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JAK!
Hi son, i think you were at the grotto and beach with me n jak the other day. He opened up to me and after 21 months he poured his little heart out to me as we sat on the rocks......He told me his last thought every night before he goes to sleep and guess what? Its exactly the same as mine! He asked me so many questions and i tried through my broken heart to answer them as best i could. We saw the white feathers falling and he knew it was you!.....He seems a lot calmer so i think he was so ready to talk about you. All he wants is to go back to when we were together as he misses you more than ever. We all think kids are resilient but thats not true as he thinks like we all do but bottles it up. Please watch over him and keep him safe for me. Things happen at school etc and he knows you are with him as he told me he talks to you!.....Deeply loved and longed for, Mam, Lee n Jak. Big snuggles off Madison xxxxxx
hi Stephen hun your mam said to tell you shes having bother with her computer and cant get on here . shes itching to tell you all the gossip , hope you showed my mum how to dance properly at her birthday party in heaven today ! xx
Son
Hi Stephen son
I got a letter off Billy Bell the other day and he made me laugh with a story about you... here goes
You were at boxing training when you were younger. It was a Sunday morning and all you lads had to run to the grotto(of all places)! and back, so you had a bet to see who could do it the fastest!
You were away out the door before they could say ready steady go.........When everyone got back to the club you were their first and hadnt even broke a sweat, so you won! When you got outside with Billy, you told him that you had jumped on the bus to the grotto, went inside and played the bandit, won the jackpot then jumped back on the bus to the club. Billy said where theirs a will theres a way and you always found a way, (The Dappa way)I had forgot about that and i said in time i would share the many funny memories of you and that was one of them. You had an amazing knack of making people laugh and you were loved for that. I hope your personality is being put to good use in heaven son, loved 4ever and a day xxxxxxxxxxxxx
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STEPHEN
Son, last night and today have been hard! The helicopter was hovering over here for ages last night. It really got to me as thats the painful memory i have of the night you left. It brings it all back like it was yesterday and we really struggle! Lee took me and Jak out in the car to get away from it! We think of you every day but some days are so much worse to cope with......Jak gets more and more like you every day and that is hard to deal with but he has your wacky sense of humour and i love that.....Yesterday he stripped off in the rain and got on the trampoline in just his boxers and socks and it was like you bouncing away as happy as ever. Him and Lee keep me going thank the lord.... Well son you keep having fun up their with your angel mates and keep an eye on Demi n Tatum for their mam n dad, love you and miss you forever xxxxxxxxxxxx
FOR JEAN
I JOINED GONE TOO SOOON A FEW WEEKS AGO,I CAME OVER YOUR MEMORIAL PAGE AND I AM HAPPY TO BE ABLE TO TELL YOU THAT I AM SO,SO SORRY 4 YOUR LOSS.I KNOW HOW YOU ARE FEELING LOSING SOMEONE SO CLOSE TO YOU,AS YOU KNOW I LOST MY SISTER PAMELA.WE NEVER REALLY SPOKE,BUT WE KNOW WHO EACH OTHER ARE.WERE OLDER NOW.TIME FLIES EH? THEY SAY TIMES A HEALER,BUT WHO ACTUALLY SAYS TIMES A HEALER,HAVE THEY ACTUALLY LOST SOMEONE VERY CLOSE.YOU NEVER CAN BE TOLD YOU WILL GET OVER IT LIKE MY DAD WAS TOLD ABOUT PAMELA.HE NEVER GOT OVER THOSE WORDS.HE WENT MAD,IT WAS HIS FRIEND,WHO HE FELLOUT WITH.HE PASSED AWAY NOT LONG AFTER,AND THE ONLY MEMORY HE HAD WAS YOU WILL GET OVER IT.DEATH IS A WEIRD THING.WE BOTH WILL NEVER GET OVER OUR LOSS JEAN.AND WE NEVER WILL.I HAVE ALSO LEARNED OVER THE YEARS,THROUGH EXPERIENCE,YOU LEARN 2 ACCEPT WHATS HAPPENED,BUT FEEL GUILT YOU WERNT THERE,JUST HOW I FEEL AFTER 25 YEARS OF LOSING PAMELA.YOU WILL ALWAYS ASK "WHY" ? I SAW PAMELA ON YOUR PAGE WHAT OUR DEREK CREATED.THANX 4 THAT.
It's raining outside..
So cold and wet
Is it sunny in heaven?
It is I bet
Water falls from the sky..
Just like my tears..
That I cry
I cry so much..
And I hurt with pain
Since you went to heaven..
I've not been the same
I miss you so much..
As the days go by
My tears fall slowly..
As I wipe my eyes
I think of you..
With joy and pride
Please keep me safe..
And walk by my side
I look up to the sky..
As I think of you with love
My sweet Angel..
In heaven above
copyright© Jackie Thomas 29/07/09.
Love and Hugs Barbara xx
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