| Location | South Shields |
| Age | 22 years |
| Cause of Death | Suicide |
| Date of Birth | 27/06/1985 |
| Date of Death | 26/12/2007 |
| Visitors | 10,244 since 28/12/2007 |
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stephen 'dappa' heslop
suddenly taken from us on boxing day 2007 in tragic circumstances, always in our hearts never ever
will you be forgotten
Dappa, you were a good one, always brought a smile to our faces had so much love for your friends
and family... not a bad bone in your body mate!!! i will never forget you, as you will always be in
my heart... my love goes out to all the Costello and Heslop family, the hill will not be the same
without you.....
the song coat of many colours has been requested by jean, stephens mum,
dappa your missed more and more each day by your mum, your brothers lee and jak, and your many
friends and family!!!
a tribute from Stephens Mum Jean
I just want to say thankyou to the many lovely people who are leaving tributes and lighting candles
for Stephen. It means a lot to all his loving family.
We are all having a hard time coming to terms with the way Stephen took his life. He was more
desperate to end the nightmare he was living through, than we knew.
His friend said he had more guts than anyone hed ever known and proved this to the end. Stephen self
harmed and had tried previously to end his life. He took an overdose on xmas eve but the hospital
discharged him at 3pm on xmas day even after Stephen told the nurse, 'if you send me home now, ill
do it again but properly' sadly they didnt listen and just over 24 hours later Stephen drove over
cliffs at the local beauty spot where many good friends have gone before him. You can not have a
mental health problem on weekends or bank holidays and especially at Christmas. Now Christmas will
never be the same for Our families because they chose not to take Stephen serious!
Stephen was born 4 years after his brother Lee and he was a beautiful child with big brown eyes and
white blonde hair. He was always happy and well behaved. He was so close to Lee as they grew up and
they would always do anything for each other. His illness didnt show until his teens but throughout
the problems he had he was a very loyal kind boy. We went on to have his second brother,Jak when he
was 14 and he loved Jak so much. He would take him out and spoil him and he would enjoy babysitting
him. Jaks told me some stories about what they got up to and i have to laugh. Like Stephen raiding
my tin with a knife to get a chinkeys for them. Id saved £2 coins for ages and thought i should
have had more when i emptied it! As Stephen got older and grew into a man the problems got worse and
we had some right fights but we got over them and we were just at the point of a breakthrough as he
had been diagnosed so all his family were looking to the future for him. The night before he died he
told his aunty he just wanted to be normal and have a girlfriend and a baby like Lee. Lee has a
little girl, Madison whos nearly 2 and Stephen adored her and i know he would have been a fantastic
Daddy. He also loved all his family and would always be the first one to help when he was needed.
My only hope now is that Stephen has got the peace he so deserved. He has left lots of brilliant
memories and in time they will far outweigh the bad times. His life was short but he crammed lots
into it and he will never ever be forgotten.
In time i will share more of the fun times as he had a great knack of making people laugh. Love and
hugs to you son from mam, Lee n Jak and all your family. We miss you more than words can
sayxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Hi son
Hi Stephen, well im going away tomorrow, my first proper holiday since you left us! I am so ready for it now.....Lee just came back from Falaraki yesterday and had a great time. Him, Jonny Pullen and Pete had a camel tattooed on their big toes (as mad as ever). Jak and Madison are fine, Madison says your name great now and we will never let her forget you. Stevie Winter has asked for boxing pics of you and Lee to put on facebook for the hill club so ive sorted them out. Ive just got a grat photo of you lee n jak without your shades on, ill get it ore when i can. I have to go now on the trampoline with Jak! He thinks im 24 im sure! All our love and more your Mam, , Jak n Mads xxxx
Tightrope
Walking the usual tightrope,
Mood swings,
Paradise & Inferno
Poison money,
It only buys the comforters,
Nicotine & Alcohol
Other things too
Worries are mountains
I cannot climb,
With reason,
All is emotion.
Hi Jean, hope the poem does not offend ...was trying to capture what our boys suffered ..much love as always -B xxx
Hi son
Hi Stephen, your granda rang me today to say he had found lots of photos of you......It broke my heart to look at them but it brought back many happy memories at the same time.....Like when u were sat on a bucket on top of nannas freezer with your dungarees round your ankles! with that cheeky grin of yours.....Then you had your first mars bar and boy what a mess you were in....The first time you ever got drunk! and nanna tucked you up in her bed. Also as usual you with no nappy on flashing to us all. There are also lovely pics of you and Lee who always had his protective arm around you and some of me and you and the 3 of us. Happy Days eh! Just you Lee n me as usual. Now sadly its Lee Jak and me. But dont you worry your always here with us, i promise you that. Night night my precious angel, love you to the moon and back and miss you more and more xxxxxxxxxxxx
miss you more n more son x
Miss you and love you every second of every day son, your never more than a thought away, loved and remembered every day, your Mam, Lee n Jak. Big Hugs from your Mads xxxx
HAPPY BIRTHDAY
Happy Birthday Stephen have a good one can just see it now heavens chorus singing coat of many colours sing load sing proud make heaven rock love Anita & John xx
I PROMISE I WILL HEAR…..
Don't think of me as dead and gone
Please understand I have just moved on
God took my hand
When you thought I had died
And led me over to the other side.
There's a better life
Than the one we know
And to it one day we all must go
No more pain, hardship,
Or times of misery
Instead there's all our loved ones
As happy as can be.
You may not see me for a little while
Hear me laugh or see me smile
But I promise you with all my heart
From the ones I love I will never part.
I will always be with you,
However far you walk
I will always listen,
When you feel you need to talk
So when you are saddened
Or driven to despair
Take comfort from the knowledge
That I am always there.
One day soon I will share with you
The happiness I have found
And you will see life doesn't end
Six feet beneath the ground
Forget about graveside visits
And fresh flowers every day
A yearly verse in the papers
Is surely not the way
When there is something you want to say
Or you wish that I was near
Just talk to me like you always did
I promise I will hear.
love theresa a g.t.s.freind xx
24 TODAY!
Your second birthday away from us STEPHEN and it gets no easier! I hope with all my heart that you are truely happy and at peace up there because it would make the pain a bit more bearable down here. You party up their and look down on us all and know that you are missed so so much by us all. Today is the day i brought you into this unfair world but i have to recall the many good times as you were growing up as hard as it is. We will see you over that rainbow son so you just be happy until we get their. Loved and longed for, MAM LEE N JAK xxx Snuggles from Madison xxxxxxxx
******* HaPpY bIrThDaY ********
Happy birthday Stephen , hope you have a fab party in heaven im sure you will ! sending love and hugs across the stars xxx clair , joshie and ellin xxx
To Jeanie with hugs , a poem about how i imagine Stephen xxx C,J,E
my angel
My Angel is the One,
He holds me in his arms.
My Angel is the Best,
For he is strong and calm.
My Angel is there for me,
100% of the time.
My Angel has love for me,
That is very pure and kind.
My Angel is the One,
That will hold me for all of his life,
My Angel has it all,
For I am his life.
(tonya truitt )
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