| Location | South Shields |
| Age | 22 years |
| Cause of Death | Suicide |
| Date of Birth | 27/06/1985 |
| Date of Death | 26/12/2007 |
| Visitors | 10,243 since 28/12/2007 |
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stephen 'dappa' heslop
suddenly taken from us on boxing day 2007 in tragic circumstances, always in our hearts never ever
will you be forgotten
Dappa, you were a good one, always brought a smile to our faces had so much love for your friends
and family... not a bad bone in your body mate!!! i will never forget you, as you will always be in
my heart... my love goes out to all the Costello and Heslop family, the hill will not be the same
without you.....
the song coat of many colours has been requested by jean, stephens mum,
dappa your missed more and more each day by your mum, your brothers lee and jak, and your many
friends and family!!!
a tribute from Stephens Mum Jean
I just want to say thankyou to the many lovely people who are leaving tributes and lighting candles
for Stephen. It means a lot to all his loving family.
We are all having a hard time coming to terms with the way Stephen took his life. He was more
desperate to end the nightmare he was living through, than we knew.
His friend said he had more guts than anyone hed ever known and proved this to the end. Stephen self
harmed and had tried previously to end his life. He took an overdose on xmas eve but the hospital
discharged him at 3pm on xmas day even after Stephen told the nurse, 'if you send me home now, ill
do it again but properly' sadly they didnt listen and just over 24 hours later Stephen drove over
cliffs at the local beauty spot where many good friends have gone before him. You can not have a
mental health problem on weekends or bank holidays and especially at Christmas. Now Christmas will
never be the same for Our families because they chose not to take Stephen serious!
Stephen was born 4 years after his brother Lee and he was a beautiful child with big brown eyes and
white blonde hair. He was always happy and well behaved. He was so close to Lee as they grew up and
they would always do anything for each other. His illness didnt show until his teens but throughout
the problems he had he was a very loyal kind boy. We went on to have his second brother,Jak when he
was 14 and he loved Jak so much. He would take him out and spoil him and he would enjoy babysitting
him. Jaks told me some stories about what they got up to and i have to laugh. Like Stephen raiding
my tin with a knife to get a chinkeys for them. Id saved £2 coins for ages and thought i should
have had more when i emptied it! As Stephen got older and grew into a man the problems got worse and
we had some right fights but we got over them and we were just at the point of a breakthrough as he
had been diagnosed so all his family were looking to the future for him. The night before he died he
told his aunty he just wanted to be normal and have a girlfriend and a baby like Lee. Lee has a
little girl, Madison whos nearly 2 and Stephen adored her and i know he would have been a fantastic
Daddy. He also loved all his family and would always be the first one to help when he was needed.
My only hope now is that Stephen has got the peace he so deserved. He has left lots of brilliant
memories and in time they will far outweigh the bad times. His life was short but he crammed lots
into it and he will never ever be forgotten.
In time i will share more of the fun times as he had a great knack of making people laugh. Love and
hugs to you son from mam, Lee n Jak and all your family. We miss you more than words can
sayxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Good Friday, not!
Hi son just need to come and talk to you an let u know im missing you sooo much. Its good Friday and it breaks my heart watching all the young ones out n about enjoying life! Thats ok and i like to see them happy but i just wish you were here enjoying Good Friday the way you always did. There is such a massive void in my heart with you gone and it will never be filled...... Its your special place and always will be. Be free and happy son(over that rainbow) until i get there, your heartbroken Mam xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
HAPPY EASTER
HELLO STEPHEN SORRY NOT BEEN ON HERE 4 AGES BUT WOULD LIKE TO WISH U N YOUR FAMILY A HAPPY EASTER N I KNOW U WILL BE WATCHING DOWN ON THEM.
Thanks to all who care x
Hi son, its a while since ive wrote on here again as it was beginning to consume me!
Your still deeeply loved and missed every second of every day and the loss i feel never goes away.
I went into the grotto last night and Eva Cassidy came on singing, Over the rainbow and i knew you were there with me and it put a smile on my face! I didnt say anything, i just listened.
You stay happy and at peace son and know that you are truely loved in death as you were in life. Till we meet again son love always, your devoted Mam, Lee n Jak and snuggled from Mads xxxxxxxxx
Mothers Day again!
Stephen i missed you so much again on my 2nd mothers day without you. Lee n Jak always put your name in my cards but i missed yours n your choccys. Your so missed and longed for always xxx
Gods Grace
My grandmother was Edith Heslop. All though you may not be related, it is with great regret to loose anyone no matter what age.
My heartfelt sympathy goes out to you all.
I too tried to commit suicide 3 times but then hospitalized myself. It may be very difficult for any one to understand the deep silent pain for our mental illness, but know this. You are not at fault nor was he.
May God always shine love - life - good health and many wondrous gifts to you all?
From: Michael Dennique
Toronto, Ontario Canada
M9C 1C9
Love and Piece to all concerned
Stephen forgive me for not coming to talk to you to much, its been hard recently as your plight has been in the papers and it hurts to read the facts! Me lee n Madison have just been singing your song in the kitchen. She will learn the words as she grows. We miss you deeply son xxx
I have a heart full of memories
That's all I have left of you
Each one treasured fondly
With all the things
We used to do.
I have a beautiful angel
In heaven high above
A beautiful beautiful angel
I was blessed to love.
xxxx
Sending love and good wishes to you Stephen and also your wonderful Mum. A tattoo eh Jean .... recently I have been trying to make decisions according to the number of white feathers I see .... our boys must think we are going mad ....maybe we are?
Chin up and chest out xxx
Hi Son
Hi Stephen, hope you like the tattoo i had done today. You probably think im daft but ive been thinking about it for ages now and Eric has done it so nice for me. It is my everlasting tribute to you son.
Jak has reminded me so much of you today. I was watching him look at Madison and he looked so proud. It took me back to when you used to look at her the same way with a beautiful happy smile on your face.
Then he had a big chicken dinner and anhour later he had rice crispies then he has sat and ate the rest of a whole chicken! Just like you or what!
He is seeing the doctor on friday as i think he needs councelling as hes been quiet and has been talking about you lots so you must be on his mind. It can only help him in the long run. We think kids are resilient but your leaving must have an effect on him.
It still seems like only yesterday that you left us as it really doesnt get easier. We all miss you terribly son and will until we are back together again. Madison has been shouting Dappa lol but i think she is confused with dapper n stephen. we will explain when shes older...... you sleep tight son we love you eternaly xxx
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