| Location | South Shields |
| Age | 22 years |
| Cause of Death | Suicide |
| Date of Birth | 27/06/1985 |
| Date of Death | 26/12/2007 |
| Visitors | 10,241 since 28/12/2007 |
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stephen 'dappa' heslop
suddenly taken from us on boxing day 2007 in tragic circumstances, always in our hearts never ever
will you be forgotten
Dappa, you were a good one, always brought a smile to our faces had so much love for your friends
and family... not a bad bone in your body mate!!! i will never forget you, as you will always be in
my heart... my love goes out to all the Costello and Heslop family, the hill will not be the same
without you.....
the song coat of many colours has been requested by jean, stephens mum,
dappa your missed more and more each day by your mum, your brothers lee and jak, and your many
friends and family!!!
a tribute from Stephens Mum Jean
I just want to say thankyou to the many lovely people who are leaving tributes and lighting candles
for Stephen. It means a lot to all his loving family.
We are all having a hard time coming to terms with the way Stephen took his life. He was more
desperate to end the nightmare he was living through, than we knew.
His friend said he had more guts than anyone hed ever known and proved this to the end. Stephen self
harmed and had tried previously to end his life. He took an overdose on xmas eve but the hospital
discharged him at 3pm on xmas day even after Stephen told the nurse, 'if you send me home now, ill
do it again but properly' sadly they didnt listen and just over 24 hours later Stephen drove over
cliffs at the local beauty spot where many good friends have gone before him. You can not have a
mental health problem on weekends or bank holidays and especially at Christmas. Now Christmas will
never be the same for Our families because they chose not to take Stephen serious!
Stephen was born 4 years after his brother Lee and he was a beautiful child with big brown eyes and
white blonde hair. He was always happy and well behaved. He was so close to Lee as they grew up and
they would always do anything for each other. His illness didnt show until his teens but throughout
the problems he had he was a very loyal kind boy. We went on to have his second brother,Jak when he
was 14 and he loved Jak so much. He would take him out and spoil him and he would enjoy babysitting
him. Jaks told me some stories about what they got up to and i have to laugh. Like Stephen raiding
my tin with a knife to get a chinkeys for them. Id saved £2 coins for ages and thought i should
have had more when i emptied it! As Stephen got older and grew into a man the problems got worse and
we had some right fights but we got over them and we were just at the point of a breakthrough as he
had been diagnosed so all his family were looking to the future for him. The night before he died he
told his aunty he just wanted to be normal and have a girlfriend and a baby like Lee. Lee has a
little girl, Madison whos nearly 2 and Stephen adored her and i know he would have been a fantastic
Daddy. He also loved all his family and would always be the first one to help when he was needed.
My only hope now is that Stephen has got the peace he so deserved. He has left lots of brilliant
memories and in time they will far outweigh the bad times. His life was short but he crammed lots
into it and he will never ever be forgotten.
In time i will share more of the fun times as he had a great knack of making people laugh. Love and
hugs to you son from mam, Lee n Jak and all your family. We miss you more than words can
sayxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Beloved
'And did you get what
You wanted from this life, even so?
I did
And what did you want?
To call myself beloved, to feel myself
Beloved on the earth'
from Late Fragment by Raymond Carter
Dappa your family love you so much that I am sure you felt beloved on earth and can still feel how loved you are.
Loads of love to you too Jean sounds like you are doing a lot of good work...chin up chest out xxx
Hi Son
Hi Stephen, hope youve helped Demi to have a nice birthday in Heaven.
There is lots happening here with Hidden Treasure. Some very important meetings taking place with high up people within mental health. I am yet to speak freely! My day is coming though. Some people are scared to let me speak about you because they dont want to hear the truth but i wont be silenced. I have said this before, you are not up there for nothing and i will fight on until i win for you.
Today i had Danielle Ditchburn saying to me, "I miss my mam," She has downs so how hard must that be. We talked for a while and i told her that Dee is looking after you and she smiled. Please let Dee know that Dan is missing her so much.... Night night Godbless son, we love you to the moon n back, always and forever xxx
If I could wish upon a star
I would wish for you back here
I know you're happy where you are
But I miss you and want you near
Although I see you everyday
In my thoughts and in my dreams
I miss you more than words can say
It just gets worse, it seems
I try to be strong for others around
But all I want to do is cry
I just sit for hours by myself
And ask the question 'Why'?
It's the strongest pain I've ever felt
I don't think I could describe it
Although I try, I do my best
I don't think that I can hide it
My life will never be the same
That's why it's hard to bear
Because since the day you left us
I think that life's not fair
Some things seem not to matter now
Even things that mattered before
You have no idea what I would give
To make this pain less sore
People say we'll meet again
And yes I know that's true
But I wish it didn't have to be this way
Because you know how much I miss you
I love you with all my heart and soul
And there's one thing you need to know
There's not one person in the human race
That could ever take your place...
Sleep tight my handsome son, loved and longed for always, mam lee n jak, snuggles from your mads xxx
I heard your voice in the wind today
and I turned to see your face;
The warmth of the wind caressed me
as I stood silently in place.
I felt your touch in the sun today
as its warmth filled the sky;
I closed my eyes for your embrace
and my spirit soared so high.
I saw your eyes in the window pane
as I watched the falling rain;
It seemed as each tiny raindrop fell
it quietly said your name.
I held you close in my heart today
it made me feel complete;
You may have died...but you are not gone
you will always be a part of me.
As long as the sun shines...
the wind blows...
the rain falls...
You will live on inside of me forever
for that is all my heart knows...
c Judy Burnette
FROM HEAVEN
I SEE TEARS FALL DOWN YOUR FACE
WHEN YOUR THOUGHT TURN TO ME
JUST KNOW THAT IM IN HEAVEN,
WITH MY LORD, WHOS SET ME FREE..
NO PAIN OR SADNESS DO I FEEL
FOR GOD IS BY MY SIDE.
THE BEAUTY HERE IN HEAVEN
IS NOW WHERE I RESIDE...
I KNOW ITS HARD FOR YOU TO COPE
FOR YOU CANT FEEL MY TOUCH
BUT FOR EVERY MOMENT,I CAN SEE
AND LOVE YOU VERY MUCH...
WHEN YOUR AT YOUR LOWEST
AND FEEL YOU CANT GO ON,
LOOK TOWARDS THE HEAVENS
THE LIGHT WILL BE TURNED ON...
TALK TO ME, JUST LIKE YOU DID
ON EARTH,WHEN I WAS THERE,
YOU SEE,IM NOT SO FAR AWAY
ONLY AS FAR AS A PRAYER...
AND WHEN ITS TIME FOR YOU TO JOIN
ME UP IN HEAVEN ABOVE...
ITS THEN THAT YOU REALISE,
ITS THE GOLDEN PLACE OF LOVE...
FOR HERE THERE IS NO SADNESS
JUST EVERLASTING LIGHT...
SOMEDAY WE WILL BE JOINED AGAIN
WHEN ITS TIME TO TAKE YOUR FLIGHT...
SNOW !
Stephen son, Lee n Jak have been up to the water tower tonight on the sledge and Jak says it was brilliant but one thing missing, YOU! What more can i say cos he is so right.
Me n Lee have just been reading all the newspaper cuttings about you. I had to stop cos it hurts to much. This may sound stupid but it brings it home just how true it is. What a mess our lives are without you, we just want you back with us where you belong. Its not gona happen though eh!
Loved and longed for every passing day xxxxxx
I said a prayer for you today.
I hope you didn't mind.
I asked the Lord to comfort you
and put your tears behind.
I prayed for peace and mercy, too,
to help you through each day,
And for His loving guidance
as He leads you on your way.
You need not walk this path alone
so I prayed He'd hold your hand,
and offer you some guidance
in a way you'll understand.
I asked Him for little miracles
and to bless you every day.
Keep searching for the Rainbows -
and let Him light your way.
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