| Location | South Shields |
| Age | 22 years |
| Cause of Death | Suicide |
| Date of Birth | 27/06/1985 |
| Date of Death | 26/12/2007 |
| Visitors | 10,242 since 28/12/2007 |
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stephen 'dappa' heslop
suddenly taken from us on boxing day 2007 in tragic circumstances, always in our hearts never ever
will you be forgotten
Dappa, you were a good one, always brought a smile to our faces had so much love for your friends
and family... not a bad bone in your body mate!!! i will never forget you, as you will always be in
my heart... my love goes out to all the Costello and Heslop family, the hill will not be the same
without you.....
the song coat of many colours has been requested by jean, stephens mum,
dappa your missed more and more each day by your mum, your brothers lee and jak, and your many
friends and family!!!
a tribute from Stephens Mum Jean
I just want to say thankyou to the many lovely people who are leaving tributes and lighting candles
for Stephen. It means a lot to all his loving family.
We are all having a hard time coming to terms with the way Stephen took his life. He was more
desperate to end the nightmare he was living through, than we knew.
His friend said he had more guts than anyone hed ever known and proved this to the end. Stephen self
harmed and had tried previously to end his life. He took an overdose on xmas eve but the hospital
discharged him at 3pm on xmas day even after Stephen told the nurse, 'if you send me home now, ill
do it again but properly' sadly they didnt listen and just over 24 hours later Stephen drove over
cliffs at the local beauty spot where many good friends have gone before him. You can not have a
mental health problem on weekends or bank holidays and especially at Christmas. Now Christmas will
never be the same for Our families because they chose not to take Stephen serious!
Stephen was born 4 years after his brother Lee and he was a beautiful child with big brown eyes and
white blonde hair. He was always happy and well behaved. He was so close to Lee as they grew up and
they would always do anything for each other. His illness didnt show until his teens but throughout
the problems he had he was a very loyal kind boy. We went on to have his second brother,Jak when he
was 14 and he loved Jak so much. He would take him out and spoil him and he would enjoy babysitting
him. Jaks told me some stories about what they got up to and i have to laugh. Like Stephen raiding
my tin with a knife to get a chinkeys for them. Id saved £2 coins for ages and thought i should
have had more when i emptied it! As Stephen got older and grew into a man the problems got worse and
we had some right fights but we got over them and we were just at the point of a breakthrough as he
had been diagnosed so all his family were looking to the future for him. The night before he died he
told his aunty he just wanted to be normal and have a girlfriend and a baby like Lee. Lee has a
little girl, Madison whos nearly 2 and Stephen adored her and i know he would have been a fantastic
Daddy. He also loved all his family and would always be the first one to help when he was needed.
My only hope now is that Stephen has got the peace he so deserved. He has left lots of brilliant
memories and in time they will far outweigh the bad times. His life was short but he crammed lots
into it and he will never ever be forgotten.
In time i will share more of the fun times as he had a great knack of making people laugh. Love and
hugs to you son from mam, Lee n Jak and all your family. We miss you more than words can
sayxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
nite nite Stephen xx Ellin sends you kisses xx
Cry Not My Friend
When you wake up tomorrow and I am no where to be found
When you scream out my name to the emptiness around
When every beat inside your heart is skipping and unsure
Cry not my friend for I am here, inside your love so pure
When the waves that used to touch our feet have gone back out to sea
When everything you once held dear was lost when you lost me
When the sun that once lit up your face is setting far away
Cry not my Friend for time shall pass, but my love for you will stay
When age arrives and children play and pain creeps up on you
When loved ones show you happiness that your life never knew
When all of your expectations are met, no matter what the pain
Cry not my friend, for I am waiting to hold you once again
When beauty in your eyes turn gray and all of the rainbow, white
When strong undying hearts no longer feel an urge to fight
When winter snows become more pain than beauty in your heart
Cry not my friend, for I am here and we will never ever part
(Becca Volpertauthor)
Hi Son
A funny memory came to my mind seeing all this snow.
Remember when we went skiing at Xmas 06. You were 11 and Lee was 15. You were both brilliant and took to the slopes like ducks to water. I was hopeless and settled for a sledge with brakes. Up MONT BLANC we went and you n Lee were away. You went straight to the top on the lifts and it was great watching you snow board down with ease. Anyway we lost you and were getting worried as we couldnt find you.
Then you came walking towards us with your cheeky grin,snow board tucked under your arm and said "i went straight over the side of the mountain and had to flippin climb all the way back up" That could only happen to you eh! I didnt know wether to laugh or cry. We had lots of fun on that holiday. The clampits on tour haha. You n Lee were also fab on the skidoos. You could both ride anything with no fear.
Hi Stephen,
Was lovely to read about MC Jean on the mike giving it rice and making your brothers laugh.
Jean and I have to capture and enjoy these precious moments and hope that you and Rem see us laughing and are glad. Rem use to say to me (usually when I was trying to tell him off) in a broad put on Lancashire accent 'They'll never stop us laughing'
Glad the fight is going on too. I am running a Valentine's Quiz to raise money for Rethink on 13 Feb ...every little helps!
Chin up and chest out!
-Bxxx
Hey Stephen,
Just wanted to say another hi to you,, you rlee & jak and mostly of all to your lovely, brave, amazing mum - how proud you must be of her. I know that in the local news there is another case of someone so badly let down by the MH services - this time it was the life of someone close to them who was ended but you know waht Stephen that only means another 2 lives ruined not 1 by the shortocomings in the blooming disgraceful system - like your mam, I'll fight with every beat of my hear tuntil this changes - somehow, someday BUT in the meantime honey, just keep being you - that is what those people who love and miss you love and miss so very much and what those of us who didn't know you so well in person also love and miss and draw our inspiration from xxx
Thinking of you and yes, missing you too
Nicky xx
Also please let us remember Catrina and all of other other people recently joining yu and also Jennifer and her mum Bertha who both suffered in the way that you did xxxx
Hi jean - love & thanks to you today and always xx
Hey Stephen,
Just wanted to say another hi to you,, you rlee & jak and mostly of all to your lovely, brave, amazing mum - how proud you must be of her. I know that in the local news there is another case of someone so badly let down by the MH services - this time it was the life of someone close to them who was ended but you know waht Stephen that only means another 2 lives ruined not 1 by the shortocomings in the blooming disgraceful system - like your mam, I'll fight with every beat of my hear tuntil this changes - somehow, someday BUT in the meantime honey, just keep being you - that is what those people who love and miss you love and miss so very much and what those of us who didn't know you so well in person also love and miss and draw our inspiration from xxx
Thinking of you and yes, missing you too
Nicky xx
Also please let us remember Catrina and all of other other people recently joining yu and also Jennifer and her mum Bertha who both suffered in the way that you did xxxx
Hi jean - love & thanks to you today and always xx
Hi Son
I went out last night to the opening of Sarahs mams new bar and it was brilliant......You know why? Because your Lee looked gorgeous and it was so nice to see him looking himself! He has put his weight back on now and it shows. He was dancing on the tables and looked happy for the first time in ages. I bet thats because you have given him some of your strength to get him over the past few weeks. We love and miss you more than ever Stephen, your Mam, Lee n Jak, special snuggles from your Mads, sleep tight babes xxxxxx
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"Not Forgotten"
People think we have forgotten
When at times they see us smile
Little do they know the heartache
That our smiles hide all the while
To some you may be forgotten
To others a part of the past
But to those who loved and lost you
Your memory will last and last
1ST FEBRUARY 2009
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They are not dead,
Who leave us this great heritage of remembering joy.
They still live in our hearts,
In the happiness we knew, in the dreams we shared.
They still breathe,
In the lingering fragrance,windblown, from their favourite flowers.
They still smile in the moonlight’s silver,
And laugh in the sunlight’s sparking gold.
They still speak in the echoes of the words we’ve heard them say again and again.
They still move,
In the rhythm of waving grasses, in the dance of the tossing branches.
They are not dead;
Their memory is warm in our hearts, comfort in our sorrow.
They are not apart from us, but part of us,
For love is eternal,
And those we love shall be with us throughout all eternity.
Anon.
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LOVE JUDE.X
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